I am not incontinent but I usually cannot go more than a couple of hours before going to the bathroom and this interval is gradually getting shorter. Now in some situations, like traffic jams, I get scared that I will not be able to reach a bathroom in time and I then get anxiety attacks. This has led me to avoid such situations as much as I can but they still occur from time to time. Often, once the situation is past, the anxiety and urge vanish. I am at a point now where I don’t know if I could go through such situations if I was confident that I wouldn’t feel an urge to go to the bathroom or if I would still feel anxious. I want to try wearing diapers and confront such situations, to see if the anxiety is still present knowing that I have a protection against accidents. Does anyone have similar feelings or advice to share?
My situation has similarities to yours, though is a lot more complex. Prostate cancer treatment has left me with an over-active bladder and last year I was stuck in traffic at bursting point. I nearly had to “let go” and hang the consequences, but just made it to the loo, in considerable discomfort. I was determined never to get into this situation again. I now wear a “slip” (the slightly more acceptable word for an adult nappy) on a 24/7/basis. This gives me total peace of mind and I can happily travel anywhere, go on air journeys etc without having the worry of wetting myself. Don`t be put off by the “nappy/diaper” words. You need to make your life as comfortable as possible and know that you`re fully protected, come what may. Getting used to a nappy is quite easy and I would not now be without one in place. They are very discreet, in case you were worrying about things showing.
Good luck with managing the anxiety attacks – I have had similar feelings but not anymore. Many firms will send out nappies for you to try before you make a final decision.
I am incontinent following bladder cancer. Being wet in public is always embarrassing. It has happened to me several times and will continue to do so. Most forms of pads do the job. Most people won’t know you are wearing them. I use the Lloyds on line service “ better life “ If you are wet in public don’t panic . People genuinely don’t care. Remember how you would react if you saw someone wet themselves? I have experienced both. How you feel if you witnessed an accident is how they would feel if they saw you wet, best wishes