My daughter, who is 10 has recently started to have accidents during the day. She doesn’t always feel like she needs a wee, but it just happens. Not sure if i should discuss this with the doctor or if it’s just a phase she’s going through. Any advice would be greatly appreciated as this is starting to affect her confidence now.
Sorry to hear your daughter is experiencing this.
Although your daughter may feel embarrassed, it can be invaluable to take her to a Doctor. Although unlikely, you need to ensure she has no serious underlying health problem.
Has she explained when she has the leaks and what causes them? For example, has she mentioned leaking during exercise such as during P.E, or do they occur randomly? This is important in determining what type of incontinence she has. Are you aware of any recent accidents or other factors that you feel could be causing this?
You can read about the different types of incontinence here and ask her which of these sound familiar. These conditions are only labelled so it is easy to find appropriate treatment, do not worry about this.
Is she having heavy or light urine leaks and is she mobile? If you let me know this, I am happy to recommend products for her.
In the meantime, ensure you do not make her feel bad about leaks. Let her know you are looking for a solution rather than punishing her. Try and ensure she avoids drinking caffeinated beverages and food and drink that are high in sugar.
You can read our blog on teenage incontinence for additional guidance. Although your daughter is slightly younger, some of these tips will be useful.
Morning, well after lots of tears and tantrums, we have now found out all the facts and have started to monitor and write down when these accidents have happened. We are trying to see if there is a pattern forming that we could possible change something to help stop them. Can you recommend any discreet products or natural remedies for children. She is adamant that she is not wearing a nappy. Any advice would be great, thanks
That’s great, it should put you on the right track to finding a solution! If your child is worried about wearing a nappy, you could try an incontinence pad. These are much more discreet and small, so she won’t have to worry about them being seen by others.
Are her leakages fairly light or would you say they’re on the heavier side?
You can definitely monitor your child’s diet, which can be highly effective. Does your daughter have a lot of sugar and caffeine frequently? These are common irritants.
Biofeedback and behavioural modification are recommended treatment methods for children. These include practicing pelvic floor exercises and learning to gradually hold on longer before visiting the toilet. You can read about how to do pelvic floor exercises here.