After months of having embarrassing accidents while out in public, I made the difficult decision to start wearing incontinence pads. I’m still a relatively healthy young man, but I was finding myself needing the toilet urgently, when a small leak would ease the pain and urgency. I’m now having difficulty getting over the fear of leaking in the pad, even though I know it’s not going to cause the same embarrassment as without. I also fear that I’m going to go too far, and don’t want to be wearing unnecessary heavy duty pants. Any advice would be great in overcoming this. It’s taken me a long time for me to overcome the embarrassment of seeking advice, as I can’t even discuss it with my partner.
Finding the right/best protection for your incontinence is so important and we are lucky that the range, quality and accessibility of incontinence products has improved so much in recent years. I have had long term problems, initially at night but now 24/7, due to spinal injury/damage and as a result I use the TENA Slip Maxi Active Fit, which is an all-in-one adult nappy. I have tried pull ups but I wet too heavily. Fortunately I am in the UK and get them supplied by the NHS. If you have not done so already, I would also really urge you to see your doctor or a local specialist nurse continence adviser, especially if you are experiencing pain when you wee which you suggest you do. The latter was a life saver for me and just gave me so much support when it all started (30 years or so ago!) They assessed how much I was wetting and advised on the different ways to manage my incontinence and what level of protection would be best so that I could be confident to go out without fear of the pads leaking. They also arrange and manage the NHS supplies. I hope this helps.