I’m in a difficult situation….me (73) and my cousing (71) are very close and I visit her regularly. However, I have been noticing that her house smells of urine and she often disappears to the bathroom to get changed. She told me a few years ago that she has light incontinence, but only recently have I noticed these problems.
She is quite independent and won’t appreciate me bringing this up. But, she lives alone and has no-one else to tell her.
Do I approach her about it? Would recommending a product go down badly?
Other people’s experiences in this would be helpful. Thanks!
Thank you for your question. This situation can be difficult to manage, as you don’t want to make her feel embarrassed or ashamed. However, it is clear it does need sorting.
Approach the topic in a gentle way, you could maybe joke that you might have light incontinence too and ask how hers is going. You could then be honest but understanding with her and suggest getting a more absorbent product, such as a pant or all in one.
I’d be happy to recommend a product to suit her lifestyle. Does your cousin have low mobility or is she fairly active?
Thank you for your response.
That is a good idea, I might approach her this way.
We do go on short walks together frequently and she likes to come shopping a lot which requires a lot of walking. No big mobility difficulties or anything…we’re both quite fit for our age.
I know that she’s quite independent and would not want to be in a huge product as I think this would be embarrassing.
What kind of product would you suggest? Really not sure about the different types if I’m honest, just lucky I only had light leaks years ago.
I would suggest her trying a pull up pant if she’s quite active, as these can feel like normal underwear. They are slightly less bulky than all in ones, and would be more effective than a light pad.
Her incontinence seems to have got worse, so I would suggest recommending Depend Comfort Protect Pants, which you can purchase on Allanda.
Let me know how this goes, don’t hesitate to ask if you need more advice.