I had issues as a kid, but more or less dried up as I got older, apart from the odd accident. At 40 I started to pee my bed on a regular basis again, and then urgency started to get the better of me again. I have tried lots of treatment, including surgery, with limited success. I wear high captivity all in ones 24/7 and this allows me to lead a normal life. Yes I do wet myself frequently, but it is only me who knows. At least condition is just embarrassing, not life threatening. I now just rely on my protection, but sometimes feel that perhaps I have just given in too easily and perhaps I should still try to become dry. I must admit I do not miss having to run to the toilet only to find it is too late. I get very little warning of needing to pee, if I am near a toilet, I try to use it, but if I am more than 30 seconds away, I now do not even try and just use my protection. I sometimes think this is lazy, but does allow me to live my life in a normal way, rather than being tied to the toilet.
Does anyone feel the same?
My symptoms entirely and I fully appreciate any feelings of embarrassment you have. You are wearing protection for a reason just as I do 24/7 and it is nothing to do with being lazy at all. I was on an aircraft yesterday and, because the was a queue to use the loo, I had to “let go” into my all-in-one, rather than get stressed about it and getting to bursting point and risking painful discomfort. Also again today, I had just used a shop toilet and, before I had finished my shopping, had to use my pad as an urgency issue came along shortly afterwards. No big deal, I assure you and you should use your protection in complete confidence – no one knows. Do you use plastic pants as well – I do if I am travelling any distance and at night for complete peace of mind? They might help you relax a bit.
I wear really high capacity all in ones – so do not worry about leaks. Just sometimes think I could make an effort to try to make it to the toilet – sometimes it is just to easy to use my protection.
Glad that you have sufficient protection on. My best all-in-ones are I.D. slips, having tried pull-ups and other less satisfactory methods.
Again, just live your life your way and don`
t even bother about making an effort to find a toilet - it just causes more unnecessary stress and you can use what you need to and not feel bad about it. Believe me, I`ve been through all the mental self-questioning. Hope this helps.
As long as you have the right protection, you don’t need to feel embarrassed about relying on products if this helps you manage day to day life. Do you need any product recommendations?
However, if your incontinence is preventing you from doing everyday activities, there is no harm in visiting a Doctor. Are you interested in finding the cause of your incontinence if you do not know this? A Doctor can help find the root cause of your leaks and offer incontinence surgery that could work for you.
I’m with you Matt. Medications failed and desiccated my mouth. Pads work for me, even the heavy duty Tena Active Fit Ultimas I wear are subtle enough to go unnoticed (I wear 24/7). The only issue is that I find it hard to meet women as although I’m comfortable with my undies it is a hard topic to broach with others