Hi , my name is Jimmy and I have had always had issues with continence my entire child hood teen and young adult life… Would always occasionally wet my pants and had issues with OAB and urge incontinence trying to make it to the bathroom. As a kid from waiting too long while playing video games. As a teen being stubborn and thinking i never really had a bladder problem and would just constantly pee my bed and pants before going back too pull ups it happened so much. Now at 24 I need to bring 4 Tena pull ups to work with me every day. I am on the road constantly and it seems like no matter how much i try things never work out and am left losing control and wetting my pull up. The other day i ended up leaking through two Tena pants and the second time I was with a friend of mine at a auto shop where she was picking her car up… I knew my pull up was wet from driving to her after work but i went to the bathroom maybe 30 minutes before the urge came again. I tried to hold it for as long as I can as my friend was recieving her car but i could feel it was coming and was afraid to go back into the bathroom after using just 30 minutes before… Who needs to use the bathroom every 30 minutes its babyish. It’s also why i didnt change into a a new pull up l. I forgot to bring a new fresh one in when i first peed bc i had to go so bad and left in the car that i was nervous to go back into the bathroom again…. I ran outside nit sure wether i wanted to leave or wait for my friend i just am holding anything and doijg whTever i can to not let the pull up i had on get any wetter… Turns out i should have been worried about competely wetting my pants bc that is exactly what happended as soon as my friend walked over to me and also she could do was laugh as my tena pants completely flooded the front of my work pants next to her car… I dont care if anyone saw. I dont care that she saw. I dont hate nyself because i am a 24 y/o now man who wear 5 tena pull ups a day on average and neeeds a recommendation on better over night diapers as tranquility overnight pull ips can not hold enough.. i do care though that I want to do whatever i can to contain these accidents. Tena pants are ok during the day but would really like to be able to talk to continece nurse/ advisor/ profesionall Bout my options for the future to keep my pants and bed dry and limit the times i end up embaressing myself…. Hopefully
Sorry to hear you’re experiencing this. You’re not alone in struggling with incontinence, between 3 and 6 million people in the UK have some degree of urinary incontinence. It is just not a common topic to talk about.
There are lots of things you can do to stop/reduce leakages. Pelvic floor exercises can help you a lot, read about pelvic floor exercises here.
When you have the urge to urinate, is this randomly or during movement/exercise? There are options of surgery and medication available to help leaks, so I would definitely visit a Doctor and see what is appropriate for you.
What absorbency of the TENA pants are you using? Are you also using a bed pad during the night?
You mention that you need recommendation on better overnight diapers. For nighttime, I would recommend using an all in one or pull up with a “Maxi” absorbency. All in ones are more commonly used for nighttime. TENA Flex Maxi is a reliable all in one.
Your history sounds very similar to mine, i got better as I grew older , but bed wetting returned on a regular basis at 40, and this was followed by daytime accidents as well. I use attends all in ones 9 – they are high capacity and only very rarely leak and if they do it is only a bit. I wear 24/7 as this allows me to live my life and do anything I want. Yes I pee myself all the time, but it is only me who knows I do it. I have tried lots of treatment, including surgery, with some success, but still have real issues. Now resigned to the fact I will need to wear for the rest of my life. However, this condition may be embarrassing, but is not life threatening, and now I just get in with it. Official diagnosis is overactive bladder with urgency.
So sorry to hear that you have had problems for so long and that it has become such a trial for you. As you can see on this website, you are not alone in having continence issues – far from it. My story is very similar – a history of bed wetting and daytime accidents through my childhood and adolescence. This was caused by unhappy childhood experiences. I too have OAB, not helped by prostate cancer radiotherapy. Like so many men and women, I wear protection 24/7. My protection of choice is I.D. Expert slips which are very good adult nappies which won`t let you down either night or day. Additionally I wear good quality plastic pants at night and if travelling longish distances. You have to learn to manage your disability rather than the disability managing you. Most people who know my situation are very supportive. Those who laugh are the losers in this situation and are not worth the time of day. Good luck and look after number one.
Thanks for your answer. Can I ask which brand of plastic pants you are using at night? I know lots of people struggle to find plastic pants that are comfortable to them, so would be great to hear which product you have chosen.
If you have any additional tips on how you manage your leaks, this would also be useful to hear!
I`ve worn plastic pants for over 50 years and have tried many styles over this long time period from a range of manufacturers, many long since out of business. My plastic pants of choice now are made by Driwear of the USA. Plastic pants have come a long way as regards the material they are made from as improvements to the materials have improved. Essentially there are pants made of traditional PVC but increasingly of PU (polyurethane) which is a different product. I`ve used both of Driwear`s products and find them totally comfortable at night. I wear an I.D. nappy/slip which fits snugly around my pelvis, then a pair of close-fitting cotton briefs. My plastic pants go over the top for complete peace of mind and I sleep soundly because of the reassurance that the plastic pants give me. The nappies are virtually fail safe – I can only think of one occasion last year when I leaked around my leg tops (at night). The plastic pants were there for me and kept the bedding totally dry. There is no perspiration to worry about either and, assuming I`ve not wet myself, my briefs are dry in the morning. As you are likely to wear plastic pants at night, it is worth mentioning that the PU ones make a crinkling noise when on, but this may not be an issue for you. My wife is totally attuned to my needs and any noise does not bother her at all. Getting used to wearing plastic pants is a matter of adjustment but when you have done this, you will relax and manage your disability very easily.