I am not incontinent but I usually cannot go more than a couple of hours before going to the bathroom and this interval is gradually getting shorter. Now in some situations, like traffic jams, I get scared that I will not be able to reach a bathroom in time and I then get anxiety attacks. This has led me to avoid such situations as much as I can but they still occur from time to time. Often, once the situation is past, the anxiety and urge vanish. I am at a point now where I don’t know if I could go through such situations if I was confident that I wouldn’t feel an urge to go to the bathroom or if I would still feel anxious. I want to try wearing diapers and confront such situations, to see if the anxiety is still present knowing that I have a protection against accidents. Does anyone have similar feelings or advice to share?
My situation has similarities to yours, though is a lot more complex. Prostate cancer treatment has left me with an over-active bladder and last year I was stuck in traffic at bursting point. I nearly had to “let go” and hang the consequences, but just made it to the loo, in considerable discomfort. I was determined never to get into this situation again. I now wear a “slip” (the slightly more acceptable word for an adult nappy) on a 24/7/basis. This gives me total peace of mind and I can happily travel anywhere, go on air journeys etc without having the worry of wetting myself. Don`t be put off by the “nappy/diaper” words. You need to make your life as comfortable as possible and know that you`re fully protected, come what may. Getting used to a nappy is quite easy and I would not now be without one in place. They are very discreet, in case you were worrying about things showing.
Good luck with managing the anxiety attacks – I have had similar feelings but not anymore. Many firms will send out nappies for you to try before you make a final decision.