Hello, I have fibromyalgia which causes my urge incontinence. I find it hard to date because of the health problems but it mainly the having to wear pads that makes it more difficult. I mean you dont want to scare them of by telling them you need to wear a nappy but then you do need to tell them before you become intimate with them
love the name macclad they were a brilliant band. all you can do is be honest my last female friend was a nurse, and I told her from the star, she said she was cool with it. it was only on our first night together she couldn’t deal with it. so we went our separate ways.
my point is you won’t know until you try to get yourself out there and date. good luck
I understand your concern, but you don’t need to worry. I wear either tena pants or or heavy incontinence pads with high cut underwear all the time, and my partner has never had a issue. The right person will want to be with you regardless, what your wearing is insignificant. I learnt this the hard way, like you I was worried what they might think. After I was dating someone and things started getting serious and I thought I might have to take my clothes off, instead of explaining my situation I didn’t wear anything protective that evening just normal underwear, and long story short I wet myself in the restaurant. Be upfront, the right person will make you feel at ease
Thanks for all the replies, Iv been in lots of relationships and yes they accept that i have to wear but its still something that gets in the way. I think its harder when only being young people would never expect you to be incontinent, and to only find it weird and dirty that you have to wear a pad. so I think there isnt any way around it being a very hard thing to tell someone you have just started dating.