Hello, I have fibromyalgia which causes my urge incontinence. I find it hard to date because of the health problems but it mainly the having to wear pads that makes it more difficult. I mean you dont want to scare them of by telling them you need to wear a nappy but then you do need to tell them before you become intimate with them
I understand your concern, but you don’t need to worry. I wear either tena pants or or heavy incontinence pads with high cut underwear all the time, and my partner has never had a issue. The right person will want to be with you regardless, what your wearing is insignificant. I learnt this the hard way, like you I was worried what they might think. After I was dating someone and things started getting serious and I thought I might have to take my clothes off, instead of explaining my situation I didn’t wear anything protective that evening just normal underwear, and long story short I wet myself in the restaurant. Be upfront, the right person will make you feel at ease
