After months of having embarrassing accidents while out in public, I made the difficult decision to start wearing incontinence pads. I’m still a relatively healthy young man, but I was finding myself needing the toilet urgently, when a small leak would ease the pain and urgency. I’m now having difficulty getting over the fear of leaking in the pad, even though I know it’s not going to cause the same embarrassment as without. I also fear that I’m going to go too far, and don’t want to be wearing unnecessary heavy duty pants. Any advice would be great in overcoming this. It’s taken me a long time for me to overcome the embarrassment of seeking advice, as I can’t even discuss it with my partner.
First of all, sorry to hear what happened to you at a young age, and thank you for the advice, that’s really helpful. I’ve suffered with urge incontinence since my childhood, I was never a bed wetter, but I often used to wet myself in school. I’m 51 now, and it’s not been a problem throughout my adult life until probably a few years ago when I started planning my life around the toilet. I started using pads to save on the embarrassment, and to stop the pain of holding it in for long periods at a time. I have had a couple of accidents since starting to wear pads, as I’ve lost control more than expected, so starting wearing higher protection nappies. I know I should go to the doctor, but it does worry me in case it’s something more serious, but then again that should be the biggest reason to go. This forum is the only place I can really talk about it in confidence, so any advice is much appreciated, and thank you.