After months of having embarrassing accidents while out in public, I made the difficult decision to start wearing incontinence pads. I’m still a relatively healthy young man, but I was finding myself needing the toilet urgently, when a small leak would ease the pain and urgency. I’m now having difficulty getting over the fear of leaking in the pad, even though I know it’s not going to cause the same embarrassment as without. I also fear that I’m going to go too far, and don’t want to be wearing unnecessary heavy duty pants. Any advice would be great in overcoming this. It’s taken me a long time for me to overcome the embarrassment of seeking advice, as I can’t even discuss it with my partner.
You should definitely go and see your doctor or if you find it easier the local continence adviser/nurse specialist. That was what I did. That was 30 years ago! I have tried medication over the years without success, catheters gave me UTIs, and so I have found adult nappies the best way to manage my incontinence. I find that with the TENA Slip Maxi nappies I have to change once every 4-6 hours on average during the day and will sometimes wake early in the morning and have to change. That way I find I avoid leaks and can be more confident in the nappies.