I have struggled with incontinence most of my life but always managed to hide it since I was about 13 yrs because I was so ashamed. My parents used to hold me down and put nappies on me by force as an older child as a punishment for wetting myself so I got very clever at hiding it. I had an operation in Feb this year to fix the problem but that has left me with urge incontinence and I can’t hide it as I flood. I don’t have much choice in wearing nappies now and I have panic attacks when I have to put them on.