My son and I both suffer from incontinence, he’s only 7 so he’s still young enough to come in the ladies change room with me. There’s no private stalls at our local pool just benches so I help him change and I do the same in the open, it’s normally quite busy so everyone sees that were wearing incontinence pants. Is it ok to be changing in the open? or should the others not have to see us?
It’s completely down to personal choice. It’s just underwear like any other, but I guess there are some people who might make a fuss about someone who they think might be likely to have an accident in the pool etc. if they see it.
If you are embarrassed/uncomfortable then there’s always the option to go into a toilet cubicle and take your nappy off, shortly before getting properly changed.