…and if they did they wouldn’t care…
I know this forum seems to be more for questions rather than comments but, after seeing so many people fret about the issue (and delaying wearing during the day because of my own concerns I thought I’d post.
I have been wearing slips at night all my life (43 now). I should have started wearing in the day 5 years ago but held off for 2 years because of paranoia/shame/etc. That was a mistake.
Some friends and family know I wear and always assure me that it’s inconspicuous, but I thought they were just being sweet. After 2 years of embarrassing incidents I took the plunge and started wearing 24/7. Best decision I ever made and I wish I did it sooner.
I no longer spend a chunk of the day planning toileting, hunting down coffee shops or disabled loos or sneak behind bushes to pee. It’s like I have total freedom again and I love it.
Last week I told 3 friends who didn’t know. They never noticed at all! Honestly… They were even surprised that I was wearing then as they couldn’t tell. They were very sympathetic (and finally understood why I’m awkward at dating and the like).
I’m skinny and wear normal slim fit jeans (not jeggings!!!). Underneath I wear a Tena Slip Active Fit Ultima with a Lille insert and a pair of plastic pants.
Point being: that’s about as bulky as it gets for an incontinent person’s undies and I don’t wear baggy tracksuits to hide them and NOBODY HAS NOTICED!!!!
So if you are holding off from getting proper protection through fear of being embarrassed, please trust me, nobody will ever know unless you tell them. My life is so much better as a result and the fact my friends reacted so well shows that society isn’t as bothered as we ourselves might be!
That’s so great that you now wear them in the day with no worries. I hope to get to that point, as I worry constantly still about my pads. This happens more often at the gym etc when I’m moving around and if there’s someone behind me.
I have always stayed away from plastic pants due to being scared that they are bulky, so this definitely makes me feel less worried about trying them.
I use euroflex ones from llmedico. The material is extremely thin but lasts forever. Not as hot as normal plastic pants. I wholeheartedly recommend them.
What an excellent post from Shane. A pity more people were not as “at ease” with their condition. I`ve been in slips for over 4 years now – 24/7 – and would not change what I wear for the world. They make me feel so physically and psychologically comfortable. Many of my friends know my issue and, having explained it in some detail to them, they are understanding beyond words. I too use plastic pants – polyurethane are the best – at night and when I`m undertaking a long journey. Fabulous feeling of support and protection. Best wishes to all previous posters. John